Kirsty is mum to 3 year old Aleaha and has a brand new baby, Kaylee. We chatted with Kirsty about what to expect in those first few weeks at home after giving birth and how she's managing the transition.
First of all, congratulations on the safe arrival of Kaylee Rose. How are you feeling 2 weeks in?
Thank you so much. I’m feeling good. We have had a few tough nights but over all we are all doing well.
What has been you biggest challenge to overcome during your transition to being a stay at home mum?
In reality, it can be tough being a stay at home mum. It isn’t all coffee dates and relaxing with friends! It’s actually quite lonely and I think that is what I have struggled with the most. A 3 year old and a 2 week old are not really great conversationalist!
How has Aleaha coped with being a big sister so far?
Aleaha has done so well. I’m very proud of how she has transitioned from being an only child with all of my attention to now having to share it with a sibling. She has her moments, don’t get me wrong, she definitely has her moments of wanting all my attention but I guess it’s to be expected.
Your bestie recently had a baby too. What are the perks of going through this experience together?
It was great, I’m very lucky that I got to experience pregnancy with her and also quite a few of my other friends. Having that support on days you feel like you’re struggling and alone is absolutely priceless. I don’t think I would have mentally been able to cope if it wasn’t for that support.
What are your hopes for your daughters for the future?
My biggest hope is a better world. I especially hope that there’s more work done around bullying and bringing other people down. I worry so much about that issue now with social media making people accessible 24/7. It’s something they may not be able to escape as easily as earlier generations did by just coming home. I also want them to know there worth and that they can achieve absolutely anything they want in life.
Thanks for those insights Kirsty! All the best for you and the girls for the future. You can keep up to date with all of Kirsty's adventures over at https://www.instagram.com/the.caruso.clan/
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